Chris Croft's Personal Blog

November 9, 2010

“I’ll try”

Filed under: Assertiveness — chriscroft @ 12:25 pm

No you won’t!
“I’ll try” means “I have no intention of doing it at all but I’m not assertive enough to say so”.
“I’ll try and get to your party”, “I’ll try and get it done by Friday” – no you won’t!
Either say yes and mean it, or say no and mean it.

I hope that pointing out these two phrases will help you to catch yourself before you say them. Should you point it out when others say them? Up to you! I must say, if someone says “I’ll try” I do always say “That means you won’t do it” which they then deny, and I then push them to give me a yes or a no. Possibly not a route to popularity though?!

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1 Comment »

  1. i see where you’re coming from; however I think there is a 3rd way – when you are asked to complete something that you can’t properly estimate. In that case ‘yes’ sets a possible unrealistic pressure; ‘no’ smacks of bad customer service.

    Comment by david — November 10, 2010 @ 12:48 pm


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